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Reflective Questions You Should NEVER Stop Asking Yourself

While searching for blogs to nominate for the award The Versatile Blogger, I stumbled upon the BeFree Project by Siobhan Sudberry. While browsing the BeFree Project, making sure it was a blog I could really get lost in — and it was, I saw a Q&A on some questions posed by Happy Black Woman. I love Happy Black Woman and I love Q&A’s so I knew this was a post I would enjoy.

After browsing over Siobahn’s answers (don’t you just adore her name), I thought, “These are questions I’ve seen before, answered before, and she and I seem very similar.” But, even still, I saved the link in my blog about this folder because I figured I’d want to double-back and use her post in some way.

This morning, I got to work 2 hours early. NEVER HAPPENS TO ME! EVER! My first instinct was to find a corner and catch some extra zzz’s, but I didn’t have the car, I couldn’t get comfortable, and I once saw a King Kong size roach in the back office and couldn’t get over waking up with it crawling all over me sooooooooooo, no sleep for me! 

I decided to work on some blog drafts and Siobahn’s answers was the first blog in my draft section. Having some time to kill, I decided to answer the questions myself.

I was surprised that, although I feel like I answer these same reflective-type questions several times a year…every year…, my answers provided a more in-depth clarity about what kind of lifestyle I desire and am working towards. Even now, I feel like I can almost touch the life I’m dreaming of. Everytime I write about it, think about it, speak it out loud, it becomes more and more real.

I hope you, too, will complete this exercise. Even if you’ve done it a million times before… The more you write the vision, read the vision, and say the vision, the more conscious you are of what you want. And, when you know what you want, you are able to navigate better. Think of it like this, when I’m hungry but I’m not quite sure what I want to eat, I waste a lot of time just driving in the general vicinity of food…debating this meal or that meal. But, when I know that I want some potato skins from Tony Romas, I take the quickest path there!

 So, without further ado, here are Siobahn’s answers in black and my answers in green…

What I want to bring into my life in 2014…

1. What do you deserve/want/need more of next year?

I want more patience, go-getter attitude, discipline, God.

I need more structure, discipline, and God. 

What do you deserve less of next year?

I want less fear & procrastination.

I deserve less friction (in everything I do). ( I believe if  I’m structured, disciplined, and spending time with God things will go/be handled more smoothly.) 

2. What personal milestone(s) do you most want to reach in your

relationships, health, family, finances, education and/or lifestyle?

Relationships: Connect and Build with other entrepreneurs/solo-preneurs.

Nurture the good relationships so they grow deep and wide. And, continue to “connect and build with entrepreneurs/solopreneurs”. 

Health: 95% vegetarian lifestyle (more plant base less processed freezer foods and seafood); Run 4-5 times per week.

I want working out to become a normal part of my day whether I enjoy it or not. I want to crave more healthy foods instead of fattening foods. 

Family: Continue to spend QT time with children and hubby individually and together as a family.

I want to be more active with my husband and kiddo — pool, water park, riding bikes, sports, try new activities, etc. The couch and I have a love/hate relationship! 

Finances: Increase savings; Generate steady revenue from BeFree Project; Pay off one student loan.

More planning and discipline. As for Woman, Live!, Create! Create! Create!

Education: Educate myself on growing my business

I want to be UBER resourceful which means more reading/webinars/classes, etc. 

Lifestyle: Outreach/Volunteer; Develop personal style;

I’m constantly shaping and molding my lifestyle into what I want it to be. By the end of 2014, I’d like to say that I’ve created and sustained some good habits (and consequently done away with the not-so-good ones). 

3. What professional accomplishments (at work or in your business) do you want to see for yourself next year?

I want to accomplish building my brand, networking and generating revenue for my business.


4. What do you want to learn in 2014?

I want to learn how to make $ from my website. I want to learn how to market and brand my business. I want to learn how to make more vegetarian recipes. I want to learn how to swim.

How to make GOD, ME, and my MARRIAGE a priority….naturally.

5. What do you want to cross off of your bucket list in 2014?

Taking family to Disney World, Read 52 books (a book per week- no fiction)

Losing 50 lbs. 

What I want my life to look like in 2014.

1. What part of your life do you want to pay more attention to in 2014?

Family and Health

God, Marriage, Lifestyle

2. Who do you want to spend more time with in 2014?

I want to spend more time with my granny, children, hubby, friends and individuals that will be beneficial in helping me grow my business.

My husband…not just time, but “I love being with you” time. My daughter…she wants to do everything. (Give me patience, Lord.) God…not only praying, but listening! Myself…planning my week based on the lifestyle I desire, journaling, reading.  

Who do you want to spend less time with in 2014?

No one in particular – everyone in my life is here for a reason.

Anyone that drains me or isn’t genuinely “for” me. 

3. Which activities, habits or behaviors, if any, do you want to stop doing in 2014 because they no longer serve you?

Reading celebrity gossip sites, sleeping in late, (for this year – not reading any fiction books)

Going to bed late and/or sleeping in late. <–That’ll eliminate all the rest.

4. Which activities do you want to start and/or continue doing in 2014?

Getting up early, running daily, cooking more homemade vegetarian dishes.

Getting started before the sun comes up (I accidentally got to work an hour and a half before I was supposed to clock in. So, I decided to blog and I completed an entry before 8am <—YES!!! I need to be tricked into getting up earlier more often!), working out daily, be better in the kitchen (more variety and learning how to cook palate-pleasing healthy meals), doing more projects with my daughter, and dating my husband. 

5. What will your ideal day look like next year?

My ideal day will look like this…

Ideally I’d like for my days to vary. Somtimes I workout in the morning. Other days, I workout before dinner. Sometimes I meet clients at the office. Other days, we take a walk through the park. Some mornings, I take the kids to school. Other mornings, my husband will. Also, ideally, I’d have a cleaning service come once/week and a cook 4 days/week which would free up so much time.  BUT, if I had an ideal day (without a cleaning service and cook), it’d be similar to this…

Þ   getting up at 6:30 am — Wake up at 6 am. 

Þ   meditation/ prayer — QT with God

Þ   work out/run — Start breakfast/Wake the house/Drop kids off 

————————– Workout/Shower/Get dressed

Þ   work (on business) — Begin my day (whatever that is)

Þ   cook dinner —Unwind…

Þ   pick up kids from school/help with homework/ family QT time — Dinner/Homework/Prep for tomorrow/Family time/Tidy up/Prep lunches and breakfast…(imagine if a cook came over at 2pm to begin preparing lunches and breakfast for the next day and cooked dinner…that would save me SO much time. I need a cook, y’all.) 

Þ   Put kids to bed — Bedtime routines

Þ   Work till 10 pm —Spend time with husband

Þ   Go to bed at 10pm (so I can rise early) — Unwind (bath/journal/prayers)

————————————-  Bed by 10 (or possibly 9:30 if I have a cook and a cleaning service)

Wow. This was very powerful and eye-opening. How often do you really sit down and think about what you desire in your life? It’s a great way to see how your everyday habits are helping you or hindering you from living the lifestyle you desire. I’m going to print this out as a guide for the remainder of 2014. 

I encourage you to complete this for yourself. And, don’t limit yourself. Think of what you really, really want. You’ll never get what you never desire (or a pray for). No limits, ladies. 



Always rooting for you!


3 thoughts on “Reflective Questions You Should NEVER Stop Asking Yourself

  1. Wow! Thank you so much for following BeFree Project. I am so honored that you featured my blog on your site. Like you I also love Happy Black Woman and I recently took her Launch Yourself Bootcamp. If you get the opportunity you should check it out. Love your responses to the questions and I wish you much success on accomplishing the goals that you set for yourself. Again thanks for following I appreciate the support.


  2. Pingback: Use Your Mirror Often & Use It for Good | Woman, Live!

  3. I’ve done this list so many times over and over and over again. As if just writing it over again will bring it to fruition. Time to commit!


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